Taming the Tiger Parent

Taming the Tiger Parent

Next weeks sees the publication of my latest parenting book: ‘Taming the Tiger Parent: How to put your child’s well-being first in a competitive world.’

Those who have read the review copies so far have told me they were surprised to find the book so shocking.

Educationalist Sue Palmer, author of Toxic Childhood, who I respect hugely, has even questioned if parents can handle the truth.

After all it’s a hugely painful moment to realise that what you thought you were doing in the best interests of your child is actually harming them.

For parents, who have been led to believe there is no choice but to push, push push, it’s daunting even to consider stepping off the bandwagon when every one is driving it at full-throttle.

But the book contains one unassailable truth: Unhappy children can’t learn.

Pressuring our children is leading to an unprecedented rise in anxiety, learning blocks, like Maths Anxiety, as well as a disconnection from our children which is striking at the heart of our relationships with them.

‘Taming the Tiger Parent’ may be just one book, but there is already a movement afoot.

Whether it’s slow parenting, minimalist parenting, free-range parenting – or the more bluntly named calm the f*** down parenting, there is a growing recognition that we all need to resist the impulse to micro-manage.

The change starts with you, letting go bit by bit. We need to set our ideas of what our children are ‘supposed to be’ – and let them be what they are.

Most of all, we need to appreciate how wonderful our children are in their own way – even if it’s not in the way we once wanted them to be.

2 thoughts on “Taming the Tiger Parent”

  1. Loved your booked! Hallelujah ! Never contacted an author before, but was so moved by your book. I was raised in London by a tiger parent (!) and attended a prestigious London girls’ school. I never followed my dream-career because I was too afraid to tell my parents and teachers but it was due to fear of sounding silly. I was expected to go to university, but instead flunked out. I suffered anxiety in my 20s, but didn’t understand why as I was/am a confident person who had a trauma free childhood. I had my 2 wonderful children in my late 20s (the first of all my peers- I now understand why!). It came naturally to me to parent in the opposite way to how I was reared, although living in North London with my kids’ in private schools, this has sometimes made me question whether I am indeed ‘doing the right thing’. Along comes your book and hurrah … You have taken all the words and feelings straight out of my mouth and heart!! Well done! Someone needed to speak out and attempt to stop this bonkers behaviour! I do look around me and see mothers with their kids who remind me of my mother and myself back in the 80s and I worry that these kids will really suffer in their late teens and 20s as a result. And finally … That aside … As you mention in the book … Surely times are such that we need to go back to basics and educate the future generation in what really matters in this world! Thanks for the great read! Best wishes saskia

    1. Thanks Saskia. I am really touched to hear this. For the sake of other kids – and to validate what other parents may
      be feeling – do please let others know. Parents I have spoken too tell me the book comes as a huge relief – and they can start
      enjoying their children again. Plus of course kids enjoy their childhoods.

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